What does that mean when someone is disciplined? That means having the mindset, energy, and motivation to maintain your goals, despite the problems that may and will emerge. This article will show you helpful way on how to build self-discipline.
There is a close correlation with the willpower to help us when we face challenges. Do you need to eat that delicious piece of chocolate cake while on a diet? Do I need to check Facebook 10 times at work? Should I go to the gym when I want to relax and watch a TV show? These are all questions that determine if you have self-discipline.
We all have an inner urge to tell us what to do or not to do, but the problem is when we feel guilty after doing it. It’s a sure sign that something isn’t working well between you and your mind.
Having self-control is based on the brain, not the stomach. To be clearer, if you feel like taking a nap in the office, your brain tells you that it’s not a good idea and you shouldn’t do it. On the other hand, if you’re not disciplined, you might think the same: what the heck, I might take a nap. And you feel guilty about doing it and not getting the job done in time.
Rise beyond current emotions
When you find out that you really need to do something, you need to learn to go above your current emotions. This can be said more easily than it can be accomplished, but I know it, but one thing helps you a lot. You need to pay close attention to your challenges and pay attention to your deadlines to keep you focused and not roaming.
Write down your goals every day
Writing down your goals every day and thinking about them will help you get going. You need to know your mission. Clear sentences lead to clear thinking. And clear thinking brings you more discipline.
You also need to pay more attention to the exact situation in which the negative behavior occurred. If you do this often, you can learn how to prevent it. The next time you feel a stream of disorder heading towards you, it will react in time and stop it.
Have friends around
Put friends around you who know your problem and ask them to sometimes remind you of your goals, give them courage, and help strengthen your commitment when you’re feeling down.
Address your weaknesses
Address weaknesses that are known to be possible, such as the weakness of chocolate while braking at work. Bring your granola bar from home the next time you take a break. That way, your craving for chocolate will be less intense. Such things are really effective.
Work on your emotions, not against them
The ultimate failure of relying on pure willpower in building self-discipline is that our actions are not rooted in logic. Rationality may influence our decisions to some extent, but it is our feelings that drive us into action.
We instinctively pursue enjoyable experiences and avoid unpleasant ones. And traditionally, the only way we can reverse the primitive tendencies and instead pursue the sick is to counter our emotions and desires.
Throughout history, religious clergy and a handful of philosophers have explained the usefulness of achieving self-discipline by denying one’s emotions. They supported the development of tyrannical control over their desires and encouraged the suppression of impulses.
And while this approach creates a tamer society (because our sensory brains can run wild if left to our devices), psychologically speaking, it’s me. Do a lot to us. If we continue to deny our genuine feelings and desires in the long run, we feel sick about ourselves, leading to guilt and anxiety.
This mixture of conflicting emotions creates explosive tension within the individual. And finally, this tension boils and is resolved in one of two ways. Individuals succumb to suppressed desires for months or years, settle for guilty joy, or find other distractions to escape and paralyze their emotions.
Alcohol and drug addiction are perfect examples.
This is the reason why self-discipline based on self-denial cannot be maintained in the long term. It only leads to higher levels of dysfunction and, ultimately, worse than when we started.
Instead, in order to develop a sound approach to self-discipline, you need to address your emotions rather than oppose them. The first step is to separate your personal failure from your moral failure. You must be aware that being tempted and guilty does not necessarily make you a scary person. We are all imperfect and that makes us human. We all fall short of our expectations and sometimes shit the bed, and that’s okay. Only when you stop judging yourself and let go of guilt and anxiety, you can see your actions from a different perspective.
This will give you a deeper understanding of why you engage in certain behaviors and the emotional triggers of those behaviors.
Are we trying to avoid facing the underlying problem or are we affected by unresolved psychological trauma?
By confronting and accepting your emotions about what they are, you can work with them and find answers to the underlying emotional problems. And as your emotional maturity increases, you no longer know why to punish yourself. On the contrary, you begin to love yourself.
With this newly discovered narcissism, it’s easy to want the best for yourself. Getting up early, exercising, and eating a healthy diet no longer seem like a daunting task for you, as it feels good to take care of yourself.
You no longer need to be paralyzed by a lot of addiction or scratch your internal itch. Those bad habits that seemed unstoppable at some point suddenly become meaningless.
You need to be patient with building self-discipline. It’s not an easy task, but it’s worth the hassle. It will be rewarded in the long run and you will be more thankful to yourself and, as a result, others will be more respectful of you.
And remember: “The price of self-discipline is always less than the pain of regret.”
You can create anything you can think when you become self-disciplined. Here is a good book to read No Excuses! by Brian Tracy